When you experience a loss there are A LOT of phrases you hear…. I’m sorry for your loss, I can’t even imagine what you are going through, your family is in my thoughts and prayers… these are the most common.. there a some not so pleasant things too… at least your young and can try again, he/she is in a better place, or at least you have other children… these sound harsh… the truth is though, there are no words! People don’t know what to say so they say whatever comes to mind. I remember when I friend of mine experienced a late term loss long before our loss… I said to Eric, “Oh my, I can’t even imagine.” This is because you seriously can’t. You can talk about what ifs and the way you think you would react, but until you are in that situation you just don’t know. Here is my BEST advice for those of you who have someone in your life experiencing a loss… acknowledge their pain. Don’t try to step around it. Ask to hear their story, and listen! We want you to know that our child is real and that he/she matters. This is how you show that! One of the main benefits that come from this type of interaction is that we can begin to grieve with hope. Hope that our friends and family will celebrate the lives of our babies, however short they were. Hope that we can heal and see joy again.
After we lost Bransen, I felt like I wasn’t going to ever be able to breathe again. How do we get up and keep going? How do we ensure that he isn’t forgotten. Sharing my story and connecting with other mommas has done just that for me. I was talking to Eric last night about my hopes for this blog and he mentioned how many stories people have told him of their own loss. People that he works with, our closest friends, our families. All these people that we didn’t know had experienced a loss! Sometimes parents prefer to keep that part of their life private. I totally respect that! I just want to make sure that moms AND DADS, know that if they want to talk about it, they should! Sometimes sharing your story with others truly allows you to heal. If you ever want to share your story or chat, my door is always open! Today, I am going to focus on grieving with hope for the future, hope for all of the mommas out there that are waiting, and hope that the universe has given us this path for a reason! ❤ stay strong momma!
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