I am a planner. I like to know what I am doing and when, how much money I’m spending and on what etc… Life doesn’t work that way, as we all know! So learning to shift with the changes is paramount to our happiness and success. It’s okay to feel the emotions associated with those changes, but don’t live there.
After a loss, you aren’t sure where to start. For us, we knew that we wanted another child, but how do you make those plans when something so drastic just occurred? We are still learning and we are ALWAYS adapting. It’s been 15 months since our loss, and we haven’t conceived yet. Our plan was to start right away and conceive quickly, because this time we would be trying. With Bransen, we weren’t trying at all. In fact, we were really thinking that we didn’t want any more children, but weren’t against it. Our plan didn’t go as planned. After a full year of trying, our OB wanted to run some tests to ensure that everything was okay. All of our tests came back great, it just hasn’t happened for us yet. There is a thought that the stress of trying to will a pregnancy has prevented it from happening. We have had to learn to let this part of our lives be up to chance and faith.
Parenting in general consists of a lot of plan changing. If you’ve ever tried to set up a play date, you know what I’m talking about. In every part of our life, we must give the universe a little bit of grace and acceptance. When you make a plan, understand that plan b, c, d, e etc may not work and you’ll have to think of something on the fly. Teach yourself to accept this! You’ll have days that you fail, but learn a lesson and become better because of it.
As always, stay strong mommas. I’m here if you need me.
Xoxo
Becca ❤
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