Keep on trying

This last Saturday my friends and family threw me a surprise graduation party! I just finished my bachelor’s degree, and because of Covid-19, my actual graduation was cancelled. I was overjoyed that my family and friends wanted to celebrate with me! After the party, a few girlfriends and I went out for a drink. Our girls night consisted of a few drinks and A LOT of conversation. We all are moms so of course so many subjects surrounded our children and pregnancy. We shared our fears for the upcoming year, the funny things our children have done recently and our birth stories.

One of the things that took my breath away was that every single one of these women have experienced a loss. The statistic is 1 in 4 women experience a pregnancy loss. Here I was, with three of my best friends, and all of us have experienced a loss. This makes the statistic seem unrealistic! We live in what is supposed to be one of the most advanced countries in the world, yet we are losing babies at an alarming rate. What is even scarier is that I have more women in my life that have experienced the same thing!

This conversation had real potential to bring me down. Loss is hard to talk about and it’s even harder to bounce back from. Let me tell you something though, each of these women have bounced back! Each of them have a rainbow baby to show off! They grieved their loss and kept trying. They knew that the universe had something special in store for them. I am selfishly thankful at the way all the women in my life have handled their losses because I now have beautiful nieces and nephews to show that there are rainbows at the end of every storm.

I came home from girls night and excitedly talked to Eric about where we are in our conception journey and how I am filled with so much hope right now. There are hardships in our lives, and I believe they are given to us to grow and teach us something. It isn’t always apparent and it’s not always pleasant. The way we react to these hardships determines who we are as people. I know I have said it before, but it’s okay to get in your feelings every now and then. Sometimes a good cry is good for our soul. Just don’t live there. Pick yourself up, find your joy and chase your dreams!

Stay strong mommas!

Xoxo

Becca