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Self-Care

Happy February! I can’t believe that January flew by already! I hope you all had a great month!

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what self-care can look like for moms, women trying to conceive, grandma’s, teachers, etc. Self-care isn’t a one size fits all kind of thing. In fact, sometimes it takes some soul searching to figure out what type of self-care truly works for you!

The first step to finding what works is getting some actual alone time. Our kids, spouses, animals, friends, and family are all ridiculously important to us, but for the sake of finding out what works… put them all to the side for a minute. In the true moment of aloneness, where does your mind go? What do you WANT to do? If any of you are thinking…. fold that laundry, wash the dishes or shampoo your carpets… I see you! My mind instantly goes to things I could get done without interruption. If doing a load of laundry uninterrupted is your jam, then go for it!

Some of us choose books, our favorite TV show, a pedicure or a hot cup of coffee at our favorite cafe. ALL of these things are self-care. What works best to rejuvenate you, may not be what works best for those around you. YOU have to decide where you are able to get the most peace and relaxation. The saying, you can’t pour from an empty cup, is so true! We can’t give our best selves to the world when we are empty.

It took me a long time to understand that it’s okay to say no. It’s okay to skip out on an event and allow yourself time to relax. The house doesn’t have to be spotless all the time. Give yourself a break! For the month of February, I challenge each of you to pick a self-care task from the list below each week. If you send me a message letting me know what task you picked, at the end of the month I will send a random participant a special self-care gift!!

As always,

Stay strong mommas!

Xoxo

Becca

Keep on trying

This last Saturday my friends and family threw me a surprise graduation party! I just finished my bachelor’s degree, and because of Covid-19, my actual graduation was cancelled. I was overjoyed that my family and friends wanted to celebrate with me! After the party, a few girlfriends and I went out for a drink. Our girls night consisted of a few drinks and A LOT of conversation. We all are moms so of course so many subjects surrounded our children and pregnancy. We shared our fears for the upcoming year, the funny things our children have done recently and our birth stories.

One of the things that took my breath away was that every single one of these women have experienced a loss. The statistic is 1 in 4 women experience a pregnancy loss. Here I was, with three of my best friends, and all of us have experienced a loss. This makes the statistic seem unrealistic! We live in what is supposed to be one of the most advanced countries in the world, yet we are losing babies at an alarming rate. What is even scarier is that I have more women in my life that have experienced the same thing!

This conversation had real potential to bring me down. Loss is hard to talk about and it’s even harder to bounce back from. Let me tell you something though, each of these women have bounced back! Each of them have a rainbow baby to show off! They grieved their loss and kept trying. They knew that the universe had something special in store for them. I am selfishly thankful at the way all the women in my life have handled their losses because I now have beautiful nieces and nephews to show that there are rainbows at the end of every storm.

I came home from girls night and excitedly talked to Eric about where we are in our conception journey and how I am filled with so much hope right now. There are hardships in our lives, and I believe they are given to us to grow and teach us something. It isn’t always apparent and it’s not always pleasant. The way we react to these hardships determines who we are as people. I know I have said it before, but it’s okay to get in your feelings every now and then. Sometimes a good cry is good for our soul. Just don’t live there. Pick yourself up, find your joy and chase your dreams!

Stay strong mommas!

Xoxo

Becca